First Night On The Town

Whenever you’re a newbie in town, it’s difficult to find local events because well, you haven’t a clue as to where anything is or which spots are best to meet people. But, after my first post was published, I had several locals message me on Facebook welcoming me to the town, which I thought was extremely nice.

Anywho, I researched events happening this past Saturday and came across a show called “Burning Las Vegas” at Main Street Music in Murfreesboro. I saw that one of my Facebook friends, Chris Highers was the owner of Main Street Music and host of the show, so I asked him about this interesting event.

After chatting with him for a few, he actually offered my boyfriend and I to see the show — free of charge — which was so sweet of him! He said it was, the “Best live music around” and it was “sold out.” So, we got ready for our first night on the town and made our way over to this Music hall.

When we arrived, the parking lot was full of cars and the place was packed. We each ordered a drink and headed upstairs to watch the bands.

After a while, three women came on stage and began singing music from my parents generation. I loved the music because I grew up listening to oldies.

While I was standing there with a drink in my hand listening to these women sing songs such as “Dancing Queen” and “That’s the Way,” it made me miss my parents. I wished for them to be present watching the same show with me.

Since I’ve never lived away from home, in those moments, I felt very much homesick. Maybe it’s immature of me, but I sort of wanted my parents. It also could have been the alcohol in me stirring up all these emotions inside of me. Regardless, I tried my best to pay attention to the lovely ladies belting their hearts out on stage.

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It will take me awhile to get accustomed to this new lifestyle, but I can do it. I bet plenty of others went through the same thing one time or another, so they can feel empathy toward me.

Until next time..

Love,

Hope Kumor

Notes from a Murfreesboro Newbie

I’ve never been the “new girl” in town because I’ve only ever lived in one house, so moving to another state is a bit of a change for me. I never went away to school, instead I commuted, so living on my own–along with my boyfriend– is a new thing for me, but I’m 25 years old and grown-up enough to be independent.

But, first, before I go further, let’s start from the beginning.

I’ve always been a huge fan of Tennessee ever since my brother went to UT Summer 2011. I drove down with him to help him settle into his apartment. From there, I visited him about three times and each time, I fell more and more in love with this state.

About 5 months ago, my boyfriend and I began looking for jobs elsewhere and I suggested Tennessee. Before we could pinpoint an exact place to move to, we needed to visit and check out the surroundings. I urged him to come with me to Nashville on vacation in January and he did. In fact, he loved it just as much as I.

Then, two months later, he randomly received a call from a company in Murfreesboro. After that, he had another over-the-phone and then an in-person interview where he landed the job. Deciding whether or not we could uproot everything and anything we ever knew was difficult. We talked it over several times and then mutually decided it would be the best decision for us.

We’ve been living here for about a week now and I must say I love it! One of the differences between where we lived versus here is stores were sprawled all over town while Murfreesboro has them all in a row. There’s everything you could ever want from this town. In the blink of an eye, you see Chili’s, Starbucks, Red Robin, Red Lobster and of course, Walmart.

Now that we’re a bit more settled, we’re ready to take on the town and learn everything we can about this gorgeous town.

Cheers to a new beginning.

Love,
Hope Kumor

Getting Accustomed To New Surroundings

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Being new in town can be quite frightening. Knowing that you cannot confide in anyone besides your significant other is frustrating, but you must work with what you have.

My boyfriend and I moved to Tennessee a few days ago and we’re still get settled. Our parents, my brother and his friend joined us for the 15-hour ride. It was miserable, long and exhausting, but we finally arrived at an apartment we only saw photos of.

We were nervous that the apartment  wouldn’t live up to our expectations. I wasn’t able to see his reaction to the apartment since we in separate cars, but I know mine was star-struck!

After we signed the lease, we all made our way over to our brand new apartment to carry our items inside. Even though we were tired after the ride, everyone pitched in and we were done in no time.

My boyfriend and I were mentally drained. We’d been planning, getting our items together and packing for weeks and finally everything was coming together. When we drove around, we saw everything and anything a person could need and want.  There were restaurants, grocery stores, clothing stores scattered about 5-10 minutes from our apartment.

On Sunday, I was dreading everyone leaving. I still hadn’t thought about not seeing friends and family for months, so I put my feelings aside and thought about how excited I felt.  His parents were first and they both hugged us tightly and wished us luck.

My mother is very emotional, so I figured once my parents and brother left, she would breakdown. I prepared myself to see her cry, but she held it together. When they left, I felt this air of loneliness I never felt before. I wanted his parents and mine back because I’ve never lived without parents.

They were always around the corner or in another town.  Family and friends were always a car drive away. They weren’t 15 hours away in another state and I needed to learn how to do things on my own. I no longer had protection or a shield around me and I was scared shitless.

Driving around and settling will allow me to get more accustomed to my surroundings. I must get used to this town and not be afraid.

Just How Dependent Are We On Cell Phones?

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Technology is like breathing these days. Literally, you need it in order to live. Throughout the day, you receive phone calls, texts, re-tweets, Facebook messages and Snapchats. You need to check these alerts or else you’ll seriously be missing out.

I had to be without my cell for a whole day. I just purchased another phone and unfortunately had to send it back due to technical difficulties. So, off it went and I had no form of communication with my parents, boyfriend or friends. I had to run a bunch of errands, so as I drove around town, I was left in the dark.

I must be honest with you: I was going a bit stir-crazy. Everywhere I went, I saw others on their phone. I decided to stop for a sweet treat and sat down to eat it. I was alone and without my cell by my side. I was lonesome. Men and women who were also eating solo were all on their phones. These days, it seems no one can live without it.

Maybe the thought of being out in the community alone without their phone is too much for them to bear. It seems you don’t want to be seen sitting  just eating. OMG! And, I cannot say anything because when I go somewhere alone, I always have my phone right next to me, so I’m just as guilty as the rest of you!

It’s just quite interesting to watch others rely so much on this device. It’s like second nature by now. I also wanted to see if I could function without it. It was very difficult, but I did make it through the day. It just begs the question: Why are we so dependent on our cell phones?

We’ve chosen technology over face-to-face interactions.  We cannot cope with real life. Instead, most choose to make it through the day by using technology. And, I am a culprit of this act. This has taught me not to stay on technology so much because I could really miss something.

Deciding To Make The Leap To Move Is Quite Scary

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When my boyfriend landed an interview in Tennessee, I was hopeful, but didn’t want to think too much into it. Usually, I get my hopes up and they get severely crushed when things don’t pan out. But, once he got his second and third interviews, I had a feeling he’d land the position.

I believe everyone around him—including him—knew he had the position once they asked him to fly down there. But, that was the easy part. The hard part was making the decision if he got the job.

A few days later, he ended up being offered the job. So, we both had to mutually decide what we wanted to do. Would we take the leap and leave our area to move somewhere new or would we say no and let our fears overtake us?  We would leave friends and family behind and familiar places and move to an area where we’d have to make new friends.

We sat and contemplated this decision together. We didn’t tell anyone at first because we didn’t want others interfering or interjecting their opinions. From the start, we both wanted to relocate and chose to apply to jobs elsewhere. Tennessee just sort of came out of nowhere and we figured this opportunity was presented for a reason.  In the end, deciding to move was the best option for the two of us.

I told friends and family and they said how crazy I was to want to live so far from home.  My parents didn’t agree nor did my one friend. But, I was the one making the decision, not my friends or family.

If we were to do this, we needed to get everything ready in a mere 2 weeks since his company wanted him the sooner the better.  Once I told others how long I had, they all thought it was a fast decision and to really think about what I was getting myself into. But, I didn’t want to think too hard because if I did, then I would let my fears get the best of me. I haven’t even thought about the emotional part of the situation either and I don’t plan on it.

All I know is– everyone around me is especially upset and some don’t agree with making such an impulsive decision to move, but this time, I did not let anyone else influence me. I wanted to make choice for me, not for anyone else.

Maybe it was a crazy decision, but I’ll grow, learn and make plenty of mistakes along the way, which will be great in the long run!

 

 

I Met My Boyfriend On OkCupid, And I Am Proud Of It

By Hope Kumor

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Most people seem to think that logging online to find someone is downright pathetic. And, guess what? I used to be one of those people. I refused to believe I could meet “the one” or anyone worthwhile over the internet. I mean, who knows what lays behind that screen? You could be chatting with a fat and perverted man while his pictures display otherwise.

Regardless, you fear for your life because you hear so many stories of guys and girls being murdered after meeting face-to-face . But, you just have to trust your gut and feel the other person out. I believe you’ll just know if you have a connection and know if it’s someone worth meeting. I know what you’re going to say though– Cat-fishing. There could come a time where everything adds up, but in the end, the person was being untruthful. I get the concerns and hesitation, but I believe you should at least try it out!

In October 2013, I logged on OkCupid and saw a message from my now-boyfriend regarding health & fitness. From there, we decided to meet face-to-face. But, when we went on our second date, I decided to just be friends because I was still reeling from my previous break-up. I couldn’t handle another guy in my life.

The same week, my best friend asked me if I wanted to join her and her boyfriend at the Penn Hurst Asylum. So, I decided to ask OkCupid guy to come along. He agreed and we all went together. That night, while in one of the buildings, I really looked at this man and decided that I was being silly. I did really like him and want to be more than friends.

I think I sensed something about this guy. I just knew there was something special about him. From the moment we started talking, I knew he was different from any other guy I’ve ever met. He was an attractive, nice, sweet and funny guy. He knew how to have a conversation and how to make me laugh.

I’ve never been in love, but I ended up falling for him within 4 months; while he fell for me after 3 months. We were each other’s firsts. I know you may say we’re more drawn to each other because of that and you’re right, but even before I knew anything about him, I had a very good feeling when it came to him.

We’ve been together for 15 months and are now taking a huge step in our relationship. We’ve mutually decided to move to Tennessee. We’re both nervous, but know it’s a stepping stone in our relationship.

I just never thought I would actually meet the guy of my dreams online. This just shows that it can be done, so why not try it out?

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I’m Moving 827 Miles Away From Home With My Boyfriend, And I’m Pretty Scared

By Hope Kumor

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Moving to another state when you’ve never left your house is pretty darn scary. It’s even more frightening when it’s 827 miles away.

Imagine moving to another state where you know not one person besides your significant other. It’s a chance for you to start over and be whomever you want to be. You can be a whole different person because well, not a soul knows your past or who you were before you moved. They don’t know a thing about you. It’s a clean and fresh start.

Choosing to move to Tennessee was the biggest decision I’ve made in my life. It’s a huge deal for two reasons: my boyfriend and I had never moved away, instead we lived in our parents houses until our mid-twenties, which is what everyone is doing these days. Also, we’ve only been together for a mere 15 months. That part doesn’t bother me as much though because a few months back, I moved in with him and his folks and we got along well. We cooked our own meals, did chores around the house, did our laundry and went food shopping.

I started packing up my belongings and it hit me. I will be leaving my comfort zone, my safe haven, the place I grew up in and moving 12 hours away. It’s hard for me to deal with change. I tend to shy away from it because I simply cannot handle it.

But, my boyfriend and I mutually decided to move because he obtained a good job and I’ve always wanted to live in Tennessee. You’re probably wondering– why Tennessee? Plain and simple: I love the south. Also, even though I hate change, it would be nice to live in a state where apartments aren’t over $1,000 per month and the people are friendly.

To be honest, I am scared shitless. For the time being, I’m fine with my decision, but after we move and get settled, I have a feeling it will hit me extremely hard. I know I’ll be a ball of emotion the first week or two. I’m not an emotional person, but when no one is looking, I’ll breakdown— guaranteed.

I know this is the right decision because we both dislike where we’re at and want a change of scenery. The thing about it is we’re both going to be in the same emotional state of mind. I’ll be able to relate to him and he’ll relate to me.

The reality is: we will only have each other. We won’t have family, friends or anyone to help us. We will be out on our own without protection. But, at 25 and 26, it’s time to blossom and grow the hell up. We’ll learn so much about each other, adulthood, and independence.

I’m heading down without a job in line and that makes me nervous and worrisome. I know I’ll eventually find something, but the last thing I want is to fight about money. I won’t be able to handle fighting and bickering because my emotions will be all over the place. I know I’ll be a wreck, but it’s all about learning and growing as a person. From this, I know I’ll become a much stronger person and that’s exactly what I need.

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Working Out Is Important!

By Hope Kumor

So, I just joined Crunch, which is an ever-popular gym that recently opened in my area. I’ve gone to two classes and absolutely love it! I’ve been really getting into working out and staying healthy. I’ve tried to staying away from processed foods, but it’s very difficult. The price of organic & gluten-free meals are ridiculous! But, I must tell you, I REFUSE  to eat TV Dinners. I’m not a fan of heating my dinner up in the microwave time & time again, I’m sorry.

I’ll continue to work-out, eat healthier and be conscious of my cal intake. I’m very much interested in becoming a personal trainer! If I could go back to school, I’d get a degree in Nutrition. I love hearing about how we process food and why certain foods are better than others. Instead of concentrating on wellness, I earned my BA in English. Unfortunately. I would go back in a heartbeat & receive another BA! Right now, I’m not financially stable though. Pardon me if I don’t wish to spend another 25K for a degree I may or may not obtain a job in.

Instead, why not get a certificate in personal training or nutrition? That’s what my goal is! I’m going to search around for the best programs & truly decide what I want.

Just remember this when you want to give up– WORKING OUT IS SO IMPORTANT. It will make you healthier, happier & more confident.

Wish me luck!

Which Would You Choose As Your Afternoon Snack? Cherries or Oreos?

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(Which would you choose as your afternoon snack?)

By Hope Kumor

Cherries or Oreos? 

So, your mouth is probably watering just eyeing this photo. You love oreos and could eat them every single day if possible. Sure, those puppies look great at first glance, but do you know how truly horrible oreos are for you?

Um. First off, do you know how freekin processed this snack is? I mean, sure, I sort of like oreos, but I wouldn’t constantly consume this chocolatey cookie.

Before I begin telling you about this cookie, I need to do my research. I can’t give you false info now, can I?

According to LiveStrong, in one six-cookie package of Oreos, there is 270 calories. Each cookie in that package contains 45 calories. Of those 45 calories, 27 are from carbohydrates. Fat contributes 16.5 calories to each cookie. Only 1.5 calories in each cookie come from protein.

Instead of eating an oreo, you can consume something better for you at 45 calories! Come on. Your health could be in jeopardy. I’m not saying not to indulge. I’m just simply stating if you chump on these one after another, it’s an issue.

Oreos are known as America’s favorite cookie. Well, you and oreos should probably break up soon. Or, at least have a little break because this cookie could be costing you more trouble than its worth. You gain weight and become addicted because evidently, these cookies are as addictive as cocaine.

No, I didn’t make that up.  Connecticut college conducted a study on this. I was blown away when I heard that yummy white stuff us Americas can’t get enough of in the center could rightfully be cocaine. You’re probably scratching your head. I know, I did the same actually. How could a cookie be laced with cocaine?

Well, Huffington Post suggests, Several studies have shown sugar itself is just as addictive as drugs like cocaine and often cause deadly diseases like obesity, diabetes and cancer. Health professionals are particularly concerned about our daily sugar consumption because it’s in almost everything we eat.

Argh! What do you think about this?

I know most people will choose oreos because they taste better. However, do you know how healthy cherries are for you? Not to mention, they are delish!

Just to give you an idea, Livestrong says, cherries are full of antioxidants, are made up of 75 percent water and are a healthy substitute for cookies and candy.

See, now, with all this information in mind, look at the photo once more and tell me which you’d choose.

Happy eating!

Delicious & Nutritious Lunch.

So, it’s lunchtime and you’re scrambling for something in the fridge, which restaurant to eat at, or which foods would be best together. It’s never a simple task to figure out what to eat. Remember– choosing what to eat could make or break your diet. Today, I couldn’t decide, but once I saw this puppy sitting in the fridge, I couldn’t help but grab it. I took out two slices of multi-grain bread and spread on this Organic Sunbutter! Have you ever tried it? Well, here’s the jar. IMG_20140328_130030

Here are the factoids from Sunbutter.com–

All SunButter varieties are:

  • Nut-free
  • Peanut-free
  • Tree nut-free
  • Gluten-free
  • Dairy-free
  • Egg-free
  • Processed in a strictly nut-free facility (Our employees aren’t even allowed to bring in peanut butter sandwiches for lunch!)

Nutrition Info: Nut-Free Protein

We’re now way beyond sandwiches! We love seeing what SunButter customers create with our products. We’re especially fond of seeing it in kids’ lunches and as a substitute for peanut butter in heirloomed family recipes. We’re so proud that kids and their parents can safely enjoy sandwiches, smoothies, with apples, carrots, celery or crackers, and in nut-free recipes. SunButter gives kids and others with food allergies filling protein, great taste and other nutritional benefits, including:

  • 27% RDA of Vitamin E
  • 8% of iron
  • Double the fiber of peanut butter with the same level of protein
  • No hydrogenated oil
  • 0% trans fatty acid

As you see, it’s filled with all things healthy! I love a good Sunbutter and enjoyed every minute of this sandwich. After I ate this delectable bread and butter, I was still hungry. Instead of grabbing for the chips, no way, no how, I opted for a bowl of Vanilla & Almond Cereal. IMG_20140328_131056 I can’t drink milk, so I just ate it dry. Usually, I pour some good ol’ Coconut Milk, but since I don’t have any, I opted to eat it as is. If you don’t like Coconut Milk, you can try Almond or quinoa milk. Quinoa is delicious and nutritious and in milk form, it’s even better. As for my drink, I had a cup of ice water– hold the lemon. This delicious and nutritious lunch had me yearning for more, but I told myself, “no.” Instead of eyeing up the kitchen cabinets, I think I’ll brew myself some tea. I love tea and I hope you do to. Happy eating!