I’ve been hearing that the dating pool is getting harder and harder to swim through these days.
I think it’s because all of us have such high expectations of how we envision guys, so when they don’t have all the credentials we’re searching for, they just don’t make the cut. But, that’s a huge issue in our society.
Magazines and media often advertise this fairytale idea and us girls try to make a guy became ‘that guy.’ When he’s not, we become disappointed and let down.
We look online for relationships and sometimes we get lucky and sometimes we don’t.
My mother has always told me that I’d meet ‘the right guy’ when I least expected it and she was correct.
When I met my fiancé, I was not looking for a relationship.
I just wanted a friendship. To my surprise, it turned into forever. However, some girls just don’t get that lucky.
I was blessed with meeting my mate online, which is odd since I’ve always been so against online relationships. Regardless, it happened.
So, here are a few things you need to know when looking for your mate:
1. Do not set your expectations so high. I’ve learned no one is perfect, therefore, my husband won’t be either.
But I’ve accepted him for who he is and have learned to deal with his flaws. And, he’s done the same for me. Just remember who is there for you at the end of the day.
2. My boyfriend/fiancé doesn’t do that for me. I won’t lie to you – there have been times I’ve said this exact phrase and I regret it.
My guy is supportive, loving, kind and sweet, but he’s not one to write me a letter. Since I’m a writer, I would love something like that, but I learned to accept that part of him and focus on the other aspects I love.
For instance, if I need him, he would never hesitant to be there or if I want a hug, he won’t push me away. Little things like that really matter.
3. Life is not a fairytale. Okay – this one took me a long time to be OKAY with. I mean, I still think about it, but not as often as before. I’ve seen a bunch of romance movies where the guy does this and that for his girl and then, I begin comparing. STOP! Don’t do it! The sooner you can accept that guys aren’t like Channing Tatum, the sooner you’ll be okay. Who would want him anywho? Pst…
Just remember to lower your standards and expectations and I’m sure you’ll meet the guy of your dreams.
Well, it could be possible…But, once you do meet your match, I’d encourage you to do everything in your power not to lose him/let him go.
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