More often than not, you hear girls say, “all guys are assholes.” But, have you ever stopped yourself and re-evaluated the situation? How did they act like an ass? How do you know your expectations weren’t too high for the guy and he couldn’t handle it, so he pulled away?
There could be a number of reasons why the guy acted like an asshole. Well, that or he is just purely a jerk. Either way, it’s not always the case.
People have said that chivalry is dead. Um, I actually don’t believe that. Sure, guys these days seem to be more laid back and ‘chill,’ but it doesn’t mean that the average guy is done opening doors, paying for dinners and being romantic. In some instances, the media has put more pressure on men to be ‘the perfect guy’ and they often can’t handle it.
For example, my fiancé is actually polite, romantic and sweet. He opens doors for me, buys me flowers at random times and always makes it appoint to show me more how he loves me.
He’s actually very mature for 27. He’s always been that way since I met him though. You’d think since I’m the first girl he’s dated, he would be lost, but it’s not the case. Since day 1, he’s known how to treat me.
So, don’t give me the phrase, “I’m his first, so he doesn’t know what to do.” If he’s ‘in-tune’ and understands how a relationship works, he should have no problem.
Before him, I’ve dated my fair share of guys who simply did not know how to treat me. They weren’t explicitly ‘assholes,’ they just didn’t know how to be boyfriends.
One was all about getting in my pants while the other didn’t know what to do with me. Then, there was the one who broke up with me via text message and another that no longer wanted me because I wouldn’t have sex with him.
So, while there are assholes out in the world, you can’t say all guys are because it’s untrue.
This is what we need to understand about men:
- We must question how they were raised. Were they brought up to be a gentleman? Were they raised by an abusive father or mother? That also factors into the way he’ll treat you.
- They’re acting like an asshole because they’re scared of commitment, so they give you the cold shoulder. Talk to them and see what’s bothering them. Allow them to open up to you.
- Then, there’s the other the fact that whatever you do or say, they will act like an ass. In that case, there’s nothing you can do except break-up.
- Men do not know how to express their emotions. Therefore, they come off as ‘jerks.’ They don’t know how to communicate. Just remember to be patient.