“At least we have each other,” my future father-in-law said to me last night. And, he’s right.
Throughout this whole ordeal, I’m forgetting one key thing: the fact that both our parents are supportive and would do anything to help us out. His parents have kindly allowed us to move in with them and when they sell their house in a few months, move in with them again in an apartment. If that’s not kindness, I don’t know what is.
But, I guess I’ve just been thinking about my own emotions and not focusing on the others – like my fiancé.
I mean, he’s the one who got let go, not me. He’s the one who has continuous bad luck and can’t catch a break, not me. Yet, I’m the one who has been selfish and I haven’t even noticed. I’ve been ignorant and rude.
Sometimes, I need to step back and recognize what I’m doing.
I should ask myself some questions before I start on a rant about how much I dislike this and that.
But, now, I need to stop being so damn selfish and think about someone else besides myself. We’re pretty much in the same boat. But, the last thing he needs is me bringing him down.
If you’re in a similar situation, here’s how to stop being so selfish with your significant other:
1) Consider his feelings. Maybe you can’t find a part-time job and at times feel down, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t consider his feelings. For example, my fiancé doesn’t vocalize them, but that doesn’t mean he’s not feeling the same way.
2) Don’t bring him down. We’re pretty much in the same boat. But, the last thing he needs is to bring him down.
3) It’s not all about you. Don’t make every single conversation about you. You can share your feelings and thoughts, but just remember the world does not revolve around you.
4) Don’t be an ass! I get it, you feel like ass, so you act like one. You shouldn’t pretend to be happy if you’re not, but don’t take your frustrations out on your significant other.
5) Listen more and talk less. When he ready to talk about his feelings, let him speak. Don’t talk over him because in some cases, it’s rare that he’s being so open and vulnerable with you in the first place.