Dear Fiancé: I Love You More Than You’ll Ever Know

Dear Fiancé:

I don’t give you enough credit. I’d like to change that in the months to come and beyond.

You’re the first to jump in when needed. You never have to be asked, you just do it. You are dependable and you’ve never let me down.

Even though you’re not one for crowds nor a fan of talking at times, you still attend family get-togethers with me and tag along when asked to do a double-date. You don’t argue with me – even though I know you don’t want to go. You know how important it is to me and for that, I’m grateful.

I’m also grateful for the man you are.

You are going to become a wonderful role model for our children. I watch you with Ollie and picture you holding a child in his spot. I see you hug, kiss, play and cuddle with him and look forward to you doing so with our kids.

You seriously amaze me sometimes with your dedication to get stuff done. You’re a fighter and one of the strongest people that I know.

I fell in love with you because of the way you treat me, the way you look at me, how you make me feel, and how you put me first.

I love you more than you’ll ever know.

Even though you say, “I love you more,” I don’t think you quite grasp that I actually love you more. I don’t know what I would do without you by my side.

I will be faithful to you forever and ever and there’s not a doubt in my mind that you’re mine until the day we die.

You are my rock, my knight in shining armor, my best friend and my future husband.

When you kiss me, I get goosebumps. When you hold me, I feel like the luckiest girl in the world as well as protected. When you hold my hand, I get chills.

The thought of losing you brings me to my knees. Thinking about it makes me sick to my stomach. I cannot lose you; I don’t want to lose you.

I will love you until the very end!

Via Puckermob

Love Is F*cking Strong: Here’s Why You Should Never Let It Go

I stare into his eyes and think about how much love I have for this man. And, the thought of losing him absolutely terrifies me.

I have only been in love once. You can say that I don’t know a thing about love because I’ve only been in love once, but you’re wrong. So what? Why can’t he be my one great and powerful love? Why do I need to be love multiple times to really know what love is?

I fell in love with him within 4 months. Is that too early? Is that too soon? Maybe, but it happened. I didn’t want it to happen because I was scared and all that stuff. But, I’ve always been a hopeless romantic who often wished for prince charming to sweep me off my feet.

Maybe that was unrealistic, but I’d watch wedding proposals, read love stories, watch romance movies and imagine meeting the guy of my dreams one day, falling in love and having kids. Pretty typical, huh?

When I met my now fiancé, I wasn’t looking for a relationship, I was focused on my career and I told myself that no guy would stand in my way. No matter what, my career was number 1.

That shifted when we began dating.

I didn’t think this guy – who by the way, I put in the friend zone at first– would be my first love. I took him back out of the friend zone a few days later, but I didn’t intend on falling in love with him. I just figured if it happened, then I wasn’t about to stop it.

I knew he was special when I met him. Know how I knew? Well, he wasn’t like any other guy I’ve ever spoken with.

One day, we literally texted for 12 hours! What guy would do that? And, whenever we’d hang out, we never wanted to leave each other because our bond was so strong.

Every morning, he was the first thing on my mind and at night, he was always the last thing too. I’d look forward to seeing him and dread when the time came that he had to go home. My heart beat a mile a minute whenever I’m in in his presence.

I had fallen madly in love with him and there was no turning back.

I was scared that I had given my whole heart to someone because in another moment, this person could shatter it into a million pieces. But, I stopped worrying about that when we were together for a year. I began focusing on the future, heck, our future.

Love is so fucking strong, powerful, terrifying, free and empowering. To have someone in this world that you share intimate moments, secrets, and your life with is absolutely blissful.

This is the man I will have kids with, grow old with, share memories with.

Whenever he looks at me in that way, chills run throughout my spine. In another moment, he kisses me and his lips feel so soft and my heart skips a beat – just for one minute because I feel like I’m on top of the world.

Here’s why you should never let the love of your life go.

  • Being in love  is amazing. Falling in love is easy, but falling for the right person isn’t always simple. It takes time and patience to find the right guy.
  • You may never  find another who makes you feel the same way. They always say you never forget your first love. Don’t shut love out because you may not find another person who makes your heart beat that fast.
  • Makes life  better. Being in love with someone makes you feel like you’re on cloud 9. Don’t ever take it for granted because it makes everything better!
  • Never feeling judged.  This person fell in love with you because of your quirks and flaws. So, if you do something, instead of judging you, they’ll probably laugh.

Via Puckermob

Let’s Talk About Standards

“I want a guy who has his priorities in order.”

This is something many women want in a guy. Of course – who would want to be a with a guy who has nothing going for him? If he’s lazy and not willing to put forth effort in life or in a relationship, why be with him? This is just common sense.

That’s not what I’m specifically talking about though.

I feel like women’s standards have gotten higher in the past few years. Sure – we all have different characteristics we want a guy to have, but I just feel like our expectations have grown severely.

We make a list of what we want in a guy. While that’s good to do, it doesn’t always work out the way we intend it to be.

We should be focusing on: does he treat his mother right? Does he open doors for women? Is he polite and courteous to people?

Before you judge them, I would say to really get to know them.

Now, I’m not telling you ladies to settle. No woman should settle because you are better than that, I’m just talking about standards.

Here’s the thing: does he look at you differently because you cannot find a job? Does he treat you like you’re a loser because you can’t catch a break in life? Nope, so why should we do the same?

Now, you might say that since I have a guy, I don’t understand how hard it is, but you’re wrong. I was in the exact same boat and when I lowered my standards and stopped using my ‘check-list’, I actually did find a guy worthy of my time and you will too! 

Yes – I had a list of things I wanted my guy to have, but once I stopped following that, things got easier.

Please note that some guys really are lazy and they don’t give a s**t about women and those are the ones we should avoid. But, that’s not all guys. Not all guys suck. There are still good guys out there, I can promise you that. You just haven’t found him yet because well, one of the reasons could be that your standards are a bit too high.

When looking for a guy, you need to look for one who will treat you right, love you, make you happy and make you be the best version of yourself. These elements are important in a relationship or when you’re dating and if these are not being met, then maybe it’s time to move on.

You deserve to be with a nice guy, but let’s lower our standards a bit. Maybe if you do that, then you’ll meet a guy. I know it’s not easy to meet guys now-a-days, but you never know what lies ahead.

Via Puckermob

He Told Me He’d Never Say I Love You First

“I’ll never be the first to say I love you. You’ll have to say it,” said my fiancé a few years ago.

We met on Okcupid in October of 2013. I knew he was special and different than any guy I’ve ever met. As creepy as this sounds, there were times I’d stare at his picture for hours trying to get inside his mind. It was rather pathetic considering the picture never moved and I hadn’t met him in-person at that point. But, I’m sure girls have weirder stories they can divulge.

He asked me to be his girlfriend in November of 2013 and of course I accepted.

From there, our bond began to grow and I became rather attached to this guy.

In January of 2014, we went to a local diner for dinner and he looked me in the eyes and told me he was falling for me. Maybe it was a bit fast – it was 2 months at that point – but I actually felt the same way. I’m not going to lie – I was a bit nervous and didn’t want to get hurt.

On Valentine’s Day, we went away for the weekend. He bought me flowers and a card. As we sat in our hotel room, again, he stared into my eyes and asked, “what are you thinking about?” Truthfully, I was ‘thinking’ about how handsome he was, but that’s not what he wanted to hear. He asked me, “what else?” Maybe I was missing something?

Then, he said, “I know I said I wouldn’t say it first, but…..” pause “I love you.” My immediate thought was to say it back—even if I wasn’t ready to say it, so I said, “I love you too.” I tried to make it sound as natural as possible, but I just couldn’t pull it off and I didn’t want to lie to him. In truth, I told him that I just wasn’t ready and I felt like shit after that.

Here I had a guy that told me he loved me and I wasn’t in love with him – yet!

A few weeks later, his two friends and I were at a local bar. We were drinking, but I wasn’t drunk. Rather, I was buzzed and you know when you’re drinking, the truth comes out. So, I leaned over and whispered in his ear, “I love you.” In a bar, with his friends there, but they didn’t hear me or even notice. He says to me, “you’re drunk!” I wasn’t hurt by that because I was buzzed and I probably would have said to same thing.

The next day, I was getting ready to leave his parents house and was sitting on the floor putting my shoes on. I called him over, looked him in the eyes and said, “I love you.” This time, he believed me, hugged me and said it back.

So, it goes to show you, don’t always believe him when he says that you’ll have to say it first.

Via Puckermob