“I want a guy who has his priorities in order.”
This is something many women want in a guy. Of course – who would want to be a with a guy who has nothing going for him? If he’s lazy and not willing to put forth effort in life or in a relationship, why be with him? This is just common sense.
That’s not what I’m specifically talking about though.
I feel like women’s standards have gotten higher in the past few years. Sure – we all have different characteristics we want a guy to have, but I just feel like our expectations have grown severely.
We make a list of what we want in a guy. While that’s good to do, it doesn’t always work out the way we intend it to be.
We should be focusing on: does he treat his mother right? Does he open doors for women? Is he polite and courteous to people?
Before you judge them, I would say to really get to know them.
Now, I’m not telling you ladies to settle. No woman should settle because you are better than that, I’m just talking about standards.
Here’s the thing: does he look at you differently because you cannot find a job? Does he treat you like you’re a loser because you can’t catch a break in life? Nope, so why should we do the same?
Now, you might say that since I have a guy, I don’t understand how hard it is, but you’re wrong. I was in the exact same boat and when I lowered my standards and stopped using my ‘check-list’, I actually did find a guy worthy of my time and you will too!
Yes – I had a list of things I wanted my guy to have, but once I stopped following that, things got easier.
Please note that some guys really are lazy and they don’t give a s**t about women and those are the ones we should avoid. But, that’s not all guys. Not all guys suck. There are still good guys out there, I can promise you that. You just haven’t found him yet because well, one of the reasons could be that your standards are a bit too high.
When looking for a guy, you need to look for one who will treat you right, love you, make you happy and make you be the best version of yourself. These elements are important in a relationship or when you’re dating and if these are not being met, then maybe it’s time to move on.
You deserve to be with a nice guy, but let’s lower our standards a bit. Maybe if you do that, then you’ll meet a guy. I know it’s not easy to meet guys now-a-days, but you never know what lies ahead.