“Remember that time you put me in the friend zone,” my fiancé asked. Yes, I do. But, it was for like 5 days and then we went back to being more than friends.
My fiancé will never let this go. In some shape or form, he’ll always bring it up that I put him there and then, that’s when I remind him that he wasn’t there for very long.
At the time, I wasn’t ready for a relationship.
I was interning, had my mind set on a career and was only looking for an occasional hook-up, but nothing serious. I specifically said on my OkCupid profile that I was only looking for a friend. I never said I wanted a relationship. Instead, it later evolved into something more.
I told him my career goals and he expressed how frustrated he was trying to find a job. We were in the exact same place in life and so, we could relate to one another. It was nice to talk to someone in the same boat, but I wasn’t putting all my eggs in one basket.
Our first date made my heart beat a mile a minute.
It was the second date that made me re-think my heart. Plans didn’t work out and so, I suggested something else, but I wasn’t gung-ho over how he was acting. He just didn’t seem as confident as he was the first time our eyes met. Also, I wasn’t completely over my ex-boyfriend, so when he asked me how I was doing the next day, I paused.
Did I really want to continue our relationship? I was no longer sure about this guy and didn’t want to string him along.
So, I explained to him that I just wasn’t sure about us and said we could still be friends.
Little did I know, that crushed him.
I knew he was a good guy, but I just wasn’t ready for another guy just yet.
My best friend and I spoke on the same night I put him in the friend zone and she told me to give him another chance. She invited me to go to the Eastern State Penitentiary with her then-boyfriend and her and then said to ask the guy if he wanted to come too.
So, I did.
To my surprise, my fiancé not only said yes, but also told me he was going to pay. Now, what guy that was just placed in the friend zone would offer to pay? Come on.
I switched my tune when we hung out that night. I actually started to really like him and told myself to get the f**k over my ex-boyfriend. Besides, this guy was ten-fold to all the other guys I dated.
In the end, I gave him another chance and hey, now we’re engaged so something must have worked out.