I’m 27, a millennial and getting married in 2 months.
I keep hearing people bash millennials getting married in their twenties. They say we should save more money and focus in on our career. Well, let me clue you in on something, I’ve tried to ‘focus on my career’ before I met my fiancé. In fact, all I cared about was my career and nothing else.
But, where did it get me?
I’m still looking and figuring out what I want career-wise. It’s taking us millennials longer than most because we don’t have the same opportunities. We graduate college and are not promised jobs. And, you may say then why get married right now? Why not wait until you’re more established, heck, until you figure out who the hell you are?
Here’s the thing: I know who I am and why can’t I figure out what I want to do career-wise with my husband? Why do I have to be single to figure it out? No, he won’t distract me because I have my own life and so does he. He’s his own person and so am I.
So, I understand why some people disagree with getting married in their 20’s, but I also question why wait when you know the time is right?
I actually wanted to be married and have 1 kid by now, but I think I’m behind.
You may say I’m setting myself up for disaster getting married before finding a career, but I’m going to have to disagree with you. Besides, he didn’t know he was going to lose his job and be unemployed. And, hey, people asked if we should postpone it because of everything that was happening, but why do that? Why not get married in your 20’s? What’s the harm?
I’m not rushing anything.
I just think it’s the right time to get married. Why do I need to ‘get to know him more?’ What’s to learn? We lived in Tennessee for a year and that was a test for us. So, if we can survive that, we can survive anything.
I think the more experiences you endure with your significant other is when you’ll know if you two are meant to be.
So, I’ll say this again, it is not a mistake to get married in your 20’s. Don’t listen to anyone else, just trust your instincts.