Let me start by saying, I’ve been married for 3 days and I absolutely love my husband!
I was overjoyed, excited and looking forward to the tie when we’d tie the knot. I’m happy to be his wife, but that doesn’t mean I’ll no longer be independent.
There are some couples that literally have to do everything. If the other person doesn’t go, neither will they. In my opinion, that’s no way to live.
You should be able to get up and go wherever the hell you want.
Please do not be one of those gals who needs their husband to go with them everywhere!
My bestie was talking about visiting Portland and I told her I’d like to go solo because I want a girls weekend. I do not need my husband to come with me. I am his wife, but I am also independent. I love being with him, but I also love my girl time.
I love going places with him, but I can also go anywhere by myself and so can he.
I interned in New York for over a year and I traveled nearly every day by myself. I did not need anyone to hold my hand while I found my way.
I can do things on my own and I will continue to be my own person.
Even though my last name will change and my identity will alter slightly, that has nothing to do with my independence. I’ll still be the same person.
When he passes away, I need to learn how to move on with my life and if I’m constantly up his ass and rely on him for every little thing, I’ll be screwed.
While I rely on him for certain things, it won’t be every single thing. Or else, I won’t know how to cope, how to be myself anymore.
He’s told me in the past that I’m all he needs.
I don’t agree with that though. Like I said, I love him with all my heart, but there are times when I want to hang with my girls and he understands that. But, he’ll still say that he’d be fine if he just had me.
But, I wouldn’t be because I need friends, family and other people because that’s just human nature.
I love him, but I will remain independent.