Truth be told 2016 has been a shitty year for all of us.
I overheard a woman talking to her friend about losing so many loved ones as well as celebrities this year.
I haven’t lost anyone, but I’ve had a rough year.
We started off the year with deciding whether he should look for another job in Tennessee or should we be grown-ups and temporarily move back home. I was absolutely distraught. I went from crying to accepting it to crying all over again. I remember the day he called me at work to tell me he was ready to quit his job because they were blaming him for something that wasn’t even his fault!
I was becoming more & more upset and pissed for his sake.
He then had his surgery in February, which left him out of work, but he was still getting paid, so we were okay.
We made the final decision to move back home at the end of April. So, I had to tell my job. My VP was very disappointed – as was I. Every day it would get closer and closer to when we had to leave and I’d become sadder and sadder and more pissed that his job did this to us.
He was happy to leave and get the hell away from Tennessee.
So, his brother, friend, and dad came to help us relocate back to PA.
On the ride home, with Ollie in the passenger seat, I cried my eyes out. I cried because I was losing my independence, that we were in this predicament and simply because I was not ready to leave.
My VP let me keep the magazine, but I decided to move on from the Community Manager position because it would be too hard to keep it remotely. Therefore, I spent my days working on the magazine and growing it. I spent my summer looking for jobs and feeling sorry for myself. I hated it, but I appreciated his parents for allowing us to move back in with them.
At the end of May, My Millennial Life was debuting in Canada at a theater, so the director Maureen Judge bought me a ticket to come visit and see the documentary. Doing that documentary was a great experience in itself! I met some great people – including the girl pictured below, Meron who was in the documentary with me.
Eventually, I found a PT barista position in August.
Meanwhile, we were planning our wedding. It was a very stressful time in our lives because he went on unemployment and I was barely earning anything. We went from living comfortably to scraping by. But, again, his parents were generous and didn’t make us pay rent.
Regardless, we were in a bad place.
I was emotionally unstable at times while he was the one to pull me back up.
Then, his parents sold their house and the 4 of us moved into a 2-bedroom apartment. That was a hard adjustment for all of us. It was a smaller area, but we all got used to it. He and I were used to living in an apartment, so it wasn’t too big of a deal for us.
His brother’s wedding was October 14th, so we were having two weddings within 3 weeks of each other. Therefore, we had her bridal shower, mine, her bachelorette party and mine and of course the weddings.
It was a fun time because I LOVE weddings, but the money wasn’t always available, so we did what we had to do in order to attend these events.
For my wedding, I decided to have two maids of honor.
Well, one of my maids of honor was causing such stress, so 5 days before the wedding, I told her I didn’t want her in my party or to come for that matter. I haven’t spoken with her since and that just means she never was my friend.
My best friend/maid of honor came into town for 3 days and her, her friend, Angelina and I went out two days before our wedding. I hadn’t seen her in almost a year, so it was a very happy reunion!
Our wedding was perfect – surprising! Everything went smooth and we didn’t have ANY issues!
Our honeymoon was mediocre because, on the cruise, we felt sick most days. But, it was nice to get away for a bit.
So, we’ve had ups & downs this year – mostly downs.
“Things will get better. Something will happen for you guys soon. Everything will be fine.” — I hear these phrases all the time and I hope they’re correct because other than getting married, nothing positive has happened. But, I’m going to try & stay positive because geez, something has to give!
I’m hoping 2017 will be better!
Here’s what I learned in 2016:
- Going through rough patches makes you a stronger person.
- Appreciating the people and good things in my life
- Stop dwelling on the past (this one especially)
I had such a HARD time letting go of Tennessee this year. It took me longer than the average person because being independent meant everything to me! But, I needed to learn that my independence isn’t gone for you, rather, it’s temporarily out of order.
Goals for 2017:
- Get even more into health & fitness.
- Have a successful career
- Grow even more as a person
2016 absolutely sucked, so I’m hoping in 2017, things will look up!