“Hey, how ya doing?” asks some random guy at the gym. Meanwhile, my face is covered in sweat. I look at him like, “why are you talking to me?” But, I don’t say that. Instead, I proceed to say I’m good, you? He then goes into a whole explanation about how he’s been watching me lately and wants to know if I’d like to “hang.”
As he’s going into his long-winded rant, my left-hand ring finger is slowly, but surely creeping up. He doesn’t notice though. He’s oblivious to the fact that I’m married.
But, even though I’m married, this still doesn’t phase a guy.
Why is it that even though you’re married, men still ask you out? Your ring is present and very noticeable and yet, they continue with the conversation.
I have no issue with being friends with guys, but when they switch from friendly to flirty, that’s when I have a problem.
I was chatting with a co-worker the other day and told me she saw an old friend of hers from high school who literally broke his neck to stare her down. She then told me, “he was with a group of friends and I know this guy is married.” After he went to the restroom, he made his way over to her and her friends to see how she was doing.
She told me he was very flirty and even asked if she had a boyfriend!
“What if you did have a boyfriend? Would that have changed his perception of you?” I asked.
This guy got married last year and he’s notorious for cheating, so why get married? Why start a family if you know you’re going to cheat and ruin your family? What’s the point?
There has been a few times when guys have come over to me either wanting to hang or asking for my number. When that happens, I shoo them away.
If they’re just casually chatting then there’s nothing to fret, however, if they’re coming over with the intention of trying to sleep with me, no thanks!
Yo, dude, I’m married.
I’m not interested in you or your “bros.” I’m not interested in getting to know you.
When I said my vows, it meant I’m committed to one person for the rest of my life. That doesn’t mean that half the time I’m with him and then the other half, I’m with you. Marriage doesn’t work like that. I mean, at least a functional marriage doesn’t.
So, for those of you who have been “watching” me, you can watch me from a far because I’m off the market.