Guys: What’s With The 3-Day Rule?

I’ve been married for over a year and have been with the same guy for 4 years, so I’ve been out of the dating realm for a while now. But, I remember back in the day when I’d have to wait three days before I heard from the guy I was with and it was absolutely frustrating.

I would stare at my phone waiting for him to call or text me.

I signed up for OkCupid for a while and so, I met a few guys on there.

One night, I met one of the men from the online dating site at a local bar. I thought we had a nice time and I was on cloud 9 after the date. The next day, I was waiting to hear from him, but I was disappointed when the day came and went without a word from him.

On day 2, I figured he lost my phone number or was really busy. Maybe?

On day 3, my assumption was he wasn’t interested. “Maybe I talked too much? Maybe I was boring? Maybe I offended him somehow?” I began to re-evaluate the date in its entirety. “What did I say wrong? What did I do wrong?”

I was crushed to say the least.

On day 4, I finally heard from him.

He said he had a great time, but he’s been “busy.” But, was that true? Had he really been busy or was he just following the “3-day rule?”

Guys, I get it. You don’t want to look desperate, but do you ever think about how we feel? Does it cross your mind that we might be thinking we did something wrong? Do you ever think we’re driving ourselves nuts playing out the night over and over in our heads? Has any of that crossed your minds?

Again, I get not wanting to look desperate, but think about us the next time you decide not to text. Think about us as you contemplate whether or not you should send the text. Send it! Trust me – if you text the next day, you won’t look bad. That way we know you’re not playing games. Guess what? We’re not playing games either.

What are YOUR thoughts on the 3-day rule? Do you agree? Email me:


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