Note: this was written at our 6 months of marriage mark!
I’ve been married for 6 months.
To some, that’s really not an accomplishment, but to me, it is. Heck, if you can put up with someone day in and day out, I believe that to be a success in itself.
Marriage brings two people together; either you can work as a team and succeed or you can crumble. It’s not always butterflies and rainbows. You must be willing to decide time and energy to it.
When you get married, it’s no longer just about you. It’s about you plus one.
Honestly, marriage is scary as shit. And, I was petrified because I wasn’t sure if I was willing to share everything.
You see, when it comes to my food, it’s difficult for me to just hand him some of my popcorn. That’s just a small thing, but it becomes a big deal once you’re living with someone. From joining bank accounts, changing your last name to having kids within a few years, it’s frightening.
However, marriage is also incredible, fantastic and one of the best things in life.
I mean, this person has chosen to commit to you and only you until the day they die. This man has your whole heart and you have his. If you need support, you can seek it from him. If you need someone to talk to, boom, he’s there. If you need a shoulder to cry on, use his.
This is what I’ve learned being married for 6 months.
- It’s hard, but rewarding.
- Pick and choose your fights!
- Walk away if you feel as if you’re going to say something you’ll regret.
- You’re in this together, so don’t shut out your partner.
- He needs to not only be your lover, but also your best friend.
- You need to communicate. Always communicate.
- You must be willing to compromise.
- If it’s a petty fight, don’t even bring it up. Vent to a friend. Write. Just bury it, trust me.
- Learn how to share the bathroom.
- Always appreciate him.
- Thank him for being a good husband.
- Be kind.
- Accept him for who he is.
- Don’t be a nagging wife.
- Most of all, remember why you got married in the first place.