This article was written 66 days before my friend, Stephanie was to marry the love of her life.
Dear Stephanie aka Future Bride,
“To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.” -Robert Brault
Scrolling through my facebook feed, I stopped and read this quote that you captured on one of your engagement pictures. This quote stood out to me because it’s a wonderful feeling to find the man of our dreams. A man like this will love us for who we are and we don’t ever have to worry about being judged.
You’re so lucky, Steph.
You found a man who would bend over backwards and do anything just to see you smile. On the days when he pisses you off, you need to remember that despite his flaws, you should feel grateful.
Sure, the the days, months, years probably felt like a century considering how stressful and exhausting it is, but it’s so worth it.
It’s so worth the pain and frustration you felt during the whole process because the end result is so worth it.
I want you to take it all in.
I want you to focus on walking down the aisle and seeing the love of your life standing right in front of you wiping away tears as you take this journey together. I want you to forget about all his flaws, all the times you wanted to pull your hair out, every fight, disagreement you ever had and focus on this particular moment.
This is the guy who has been with you through thick and thin, good times and bad times, ups and downs. This man will be the father of your child. This is the guy who has chosen YOU to be his forever. This is the guy who you fell head over heels for 7 years ago.
While we as humans tend to focus on the flaws, I want to encourage you to instead concentrate on his positive characteristics.
Oh, Steph, my eyes are filling with tears as I write this because I remember a year ago when I walked down the aisle and saw the love of my life standing at the alter staring back at me. I looked him in the eyes as we said our vows and there wasn’t a bone in my body that felt unsure.
In terms of your wedding day, I don’t want you to stress about everything going smoothly or perfect on your wedding day. I want you to remember what that day is supposed to symbolize. It’s about two people coming together to join their lives as one. It’s about committing to one person for the rest of your life. It’s about going through life with each other by your side and making decisions as a team.
Always remember the following:
When you’re feeling down, he’ll bring you up.
When you’re feeling shitty about yourself, he’ll tell you that you’re beautiful.
When you have a bad day, he’ll be your ear to listen.
When you want to cuddle, his chest will be available to lay on.
When you feel tears streaming down your face, he’ll be there to catch them.
Just remember always to lean on him. Always communicate. Always support him. And, most of all, just love him.