Don’t Forget To Feel Grateful For Him

You have a rough day at work, so you bring it home with you and take it out on your husband. When you get home, your husband is watching TV and dinner is not sitting on the table waiting for you. The dogs have to go out and your husband is sprawled out on the couch watching a movie when you arrive home. Your husband consumes half the bag of french onion chips you’ve been craving.

These scenarios have played out at least twice and every time it takes everything in my power not to lose my cool. It takes everything for me not to yell and scream.  Side note: I’m trying to work on not coming off as a complete b****!

Instead of getting mad, I need to re-evaluate the situation.

Having a crappy day has nothing to do with him, so why should I blame him?
Maybe he’s had a hard day and just wanted to watch a few minutes of TV to get his mind off of it?
Is he not feeling well? Aw, let me take care of him.
I guess he was hungry? He probably hasn’t eaten much today, so I’ll let it pass and just buy another bag of chips.

It’s often hard for us to re-evaluate the situation before letting lose. The first thing you should do is STOP.  You have no idea what’s going on in his head or how his day played out, so be kind.

Listen to him talk and if he doesn’t want to talk about it, let it go. I’d say letting it go and not fixing it is definitely something I’m bad at. Instead, I prob and push him over the edge ruining the whole day or night.

Respect your partner and his feelings.

The worst thing you can do is get mad. I know your blood is boiling, but keep calm. Just relax!

We often forget to be kind and grateful for our partner. On the days he wants to be a bit lazy, just let him be!

 

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One thought on “Don’t Forget To Feel Grateful For Him

  1. I respectfully disagree! If someone is doing something that bothers you (ie, eats all the chips you’ve been waiting for), it’s good and healthy to say “Man, that SUCKS! I’ve been thinking about those all day!” before moving on.

    Ditto for vocalizing your wants and needs. They don’t have to be demands but if you’re having a crappy day and come home to that scenario, being frustrated is a perfectly normal response. Of course he has no idea that you’re coming home in a funk, but maybe even text that on your way home from work! “Today has been awful, I can’t wait to come home” can be a good hint that hey, maybe he should get the dogs out before you walk in the door, just to have that one thing done and out of the way if nothing else. It’s not hard.

    You don’t have to be a martyr to be a compassionate and respectful partner. Making your needs secondary to his (perceived) needs will only make you miserable and resentful in the long run.

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